All relationships go through ups and downs, discussions and crisis situations, but they do not always have to augur a sad end.
If you have reached the point where you need to read an article of this type to calm the concern you feel, it is probably because you have reached a turning point in your relationship. We’re not going to unveil any magic tricks to make your love come back to life like the first day, because each relationship is a world and we do not know at what exact point yours is. But we can give you a little guide that will make you reflect. Here are some tips that can help you recompose your own or, at least, make a decision.
1. Think if it’s worth fighting for the relationship
Think about what is happening to you. It may simply be a matter of small differences, of arguments provoked by incomprehension or for some specific reason that always causes a scuffle. Sync with yourself and ask the same to your partner: if both you want and you are clear that you want to be together, work on it. On the contrary, if deep down you know that it does not give for more but you are trying to save the relationship and you cling to it out of fear … You should put an endpoint. These signs can help you see that your relationship does not really work.
2. Identify the problem
Sometimes, the couple crisis comes as a result of small problems that you have been letting go. Insignificant details that you thought would not become what they are now: a big problem. In this case, you have no choice but to swallow your pride, sit down to speak and be sincere. Do not keep what bothers you about the other, otherwise, it will be impossible to fix it.
3. “I’m sorry” and “I love you”, two essential words
Neither you are a perfect lady nor is your partner always right. As our grandmothers would say, it’s time to get off the donkey. It is important to recognize what you have failed to do if you have been able to hurt them with a specific attitude and vice versa. Remember that asking for forgiveness does not mean losing, it is a sign of maturity. And if you really want to, tell it more often, do not always take it for granted.
4. Do not try to change your partner
Nor let your partner change your way of being. You fell in love with who you are and, although we can change harmful attitudes for our relationship or recognize failures, we can not let other aspects change. For a relationship to work, it is first essential to love one and be proud of the person we are. Only then can you love others in a healthy way.
5. Reconnect as before
It can be a very practical advice when it comes to saving a relationship from the routine. Close your eyes and think about what you did before: your first dates, weekend getaways, movie and popcorn afternoons, the songs you have shared … Evokes what made you feel good and excited you and returned to do what. It is essential to create new memories that strengthen your relationship.